Groom Vs. Bridezilla: 5 Tips To Survive a Crazy Bride, by Eric Stein
Everyone knows women are allowed to go slightly insane for their wedding. No shocker here. And the groom usually bears the brunt of this cat-5 emotional hurricane.
Good news for today’s groom is they have a fighting chance to thwart the beast before she tramples the city and blames you for it.
As the husband of a wedding planner I’ve heard all the tragedies. Blame usually falls on a clueless groom, but really it’s not his fault. He didn’t have any help. If someone sat him down and warned him of the several mistakes most grooms make then this mess could have been avoided.
Here are 5 simple tips to keep every groom safe when Bridezilla emerges to destroy the city.
“Just tell me when to show up.”
Just showing up for the biggest party of the year with no effort sounds nice, but it’s not realistic. This is YOUR party too. Get involved, ask questions, don’t be a pushover, and make sure the day is fun for you and the boys too. Your lady will love this.
**Pro-tip** If you disagree with something she’s trying to plan, make note, and circle around LATER. Don’t be the dream killer right away if you think something should change or it’s not in the budget. Have a solution/replacement idea ready.
“Oh S#!7 I forgot my…”
It takes a little forethought, but have a checklist of everything you want/need on the wedding day. Watch, tie, rings, special socks, lucky pendant, cologne, deodorant, etc etc. If you need advice, ask your planner, friends or the almighty Google.
Know the Timeline
Guys are usually oblivious to time on the wedding day. I know I was. In retrospect this was a huge mistake. Missed photos, wasted time, and higher stress levels are the result. You don’t need to know the minute by minute, but have a general idea. Set reminders on your phone or ask the boys to help you. If you step in and save the day because you knew time was running low, you’ll be the biggest stud, and your fiance will give you those sexy eyes you love so much.
Oops I got drunk too soon
Bye-bye sexy eyes...hello daggers. Catching a little buzz to calm the nerves is one thing. Taking shots and getting sloppy is another. Yes, the wedding day is supposed to be fun, and it will be, but you’re also the host, and eyes are on you. Judgy eyes. There are few days in a man’s life when he get the opportunity to show what he’s made of, and the wedding day is one. Getting hammered and blowing your vows/speech is a MASSIVE mistake.
You forget it’s all about her
Ok, you got involved, made sure the party will be fun, the budget is good, the bridesmaids and groomsmen are happy, family is happy, you’re not hammered. All great. But today is really about your bride. She’ll remember this day forever. FOR-EV-ER.
Write a few love letters for her to read during the day. A one-pager while she’s getting ready, a shorter one for after photos, and a suuuuper brief one for right before walking down the aisle. Make sure your planner knows everything.
Get her a gift to open with the first letter in front of her bridesmaids. This will impress the F out of her friends, which she’ll love.
If giving a speech always END with the focus on her. It’s all about her. How lucky you are to have found her. Thank her parents for bringing her into this world, her bridesmaids for supporting her, etc.
**Pro-tip** If you’re up for it, do something thoughtful in front of everyone...a grand surprise Sing a song, play the piano, give a gift, read a poem you wrote. Whatever it is, make sure everyone sees it.
You’ll be a stud, and she'll NEVER forget it.
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